
The ‘Gigs’ we play are our automatic trigger response and default behaviour that we engage in when under stress or feeling vulnerable to reassure or convince ourselves and give others the illusion of our being in control and operating out of our Safe Space. These responses are a default mechanism created in the past, as a result of some old emotional or psychological wound, and which at the time of their origin, were designed to keep us safe and protect from harm – our defence mechanism. We all play a variety of ‘gigs’ throughout our lives. We may have a primary ‘gig,’ which would be based on what is likely our most significant and formative childhood wounds.